You have found a man who is absolutely perfect for you, but there’s one thing about him you’d like to change. He is SHY!
Guys that are shy can be cute and nice, but when you’re on a date with one, you have to know how to react. When you are on the first day with a shy guy, you have to try and make him feel comfortable around you. Sometimes, the worst thing that can happen is for you to talk all the time and never give him a chance to open his mouth. As you’re probably familiar with it, the first date with a shy guy can bring a lot of awkward silence between you two. You know that feeling where you both stop talking, and nobody knows what to say? Yes, awkward!
But there are things you can do to make him relax and comfortable. Instead of shutting him down from conversation and making him feel like an observer on a date, you have to find few conversation topics you know he’ll love to talk about. Making him relax and letting him choose topics will make him comfortable enough to bury the shyness.
If you like a shy man, don’t wait for him to make the first move. You can do it! He’ll probably like your assertiveness, and the attention will flatter him. Best way to get closer to a shy guy is to be friends with him. Spending time together will help you to get know him and vice versa. By doing this, his shyness might go away with little time, patience and effort.
But before shyness can completely go away, you will probably feel its presence for a longer period of time. Dating a shy guy requires a lot of patience and effort.
You have to talk to him. Ask him questions, tell him about your day and how you spent it. Talk about your interests and encourage him to talk about his interests, too. Talk about your family, or your pets, talk to him and encourage him to open up. You will have to do most of the talking at first, so be prepared for that. Finally, after two or three dates he can feel a little more comfortable, and he will start a conversation. When that comes you will know, your effort will pay off and your shy guy will start to come out of his shell.
Next thing you should know about shy guys is to know how to let him know you care about him. You’ll do that by remembering all important details of your past conversations. When he tells you something important about himself and his life, try to remember it. That includes the name of his parents, siblings, best friends, name of his pet, his favorite colour or his favorite sport. After that, he will know that you really do care about him, and that you listen to him when he talks. That’s very important.
Then talk about yourself. You can show him you trust him, telling him little details about you and your life. He will feel more comfortable and more connected to you. If he confides in you, keep it for yourself. Don’t tell his private thoughts or secrets to your best friend – you’re risking your relationship by doing that.
If you violate his trust even one time, he will probably never trust you again. So be careful, trust is one of the most important components of a successful relationship!
And one final tip for girls that are involved in relationships with shy guys – arrange dates with him. Don’t wait for him to ask you for a date. At the very first beginnings of your relationship, you can be the one that will call and arrange your next date. Sometimes, you might feel like you’re bugging him, but like we said before, patient is the key to success!
Remember, once your shy guy comes out of his shell, he can and will be more confident in your relationship. Be patient and all your effort will pay off!