Being a man in relationship is not an easy task, although sometimes it might seem like it’s a piece of cake. A real man in a relationship or a marriage needs to find a balance between being a sensitive partner, a considerate lover and a brave leader who makes big decisions when the need arises.
Today’s media influences our understanding and perception of how a real man needs to look and act. This image changes every few years. A few years back, an ideal man needed to be in touch with his feminine side, he needed to coordinate his clothes, shave his legs and torso, be sensitive – a metrosexual.
Then we had a complete opposite – a manly man, a macho; whose clothes should have been covered with car oil, and whose hands need to be big and strong, and his torso filled with lots of body hair.
So what’s a man to do? How does he make himself to be the man, the ideal man in the relationship?
We’ll give you the answer. It’s quite simple, really. Finding the balance between the macho man and a sensitive, fashionable metrosexual is the way to go. Of course, you can lean more toward one, depending on your and your woman’s preferences. However, there are some things you need to look out for, some things that are more important than choosing to shave or leave your body hair.
The characteristics every man should posses are not likely to change anytime soon. These are the ability to take responsibility for your actions, the ability to make important decisions and the almighty ability to lead others – leadership.
1. Taking Responsibility
Taking responsibility is not just a characteristic of a real man, but a real woman, too. Taking responsibility for your own actions is very important, especially in a relationship. In your relationship, admit when you’re wrong, do not blame your woman and learn from your mistakes.
2. Making Decisions
Making decisions in your relationship is very important. When a woman asks her husband or boyfriend what to do next and he just answers with a simple ”You decide/Whatever you want”, she may get angry. You maybe only want to please her and leave her to make a decision because she’d likely do a better job. In most cases, this assumption is wrong. Women like to make decisions, but they like to give their man control, too. So, make a decision if she asks you to – and show her you’re her man.
3. Be a Leader – When You Need To Be One
If a man wants to be worthy in woman’s eyes, he need to show his leadership skills. If you find yourself in a situation when you need to react, step forward and deal with it. People always admire those who get courage and step forward, so your female partner will too. Some men avoid to be leaders because they are afraid of failure. Don’t be one of them. Always step forward and show leadership.
These three characteristics are most appreciated in a relationship. If you don’t have one or all of them, don’t panic – you can acquire them over time. But remember – being a man in relationship or marriage requires a lot more than this. A man always needs to step up for his partner and stand up for himself. It’s all about having confidence and direction. Having confidence and direction is attractive in both men and women.
So there you go – a real man isn’t a model with a great body, or an oily, big-handed macho guy. A real man is the man your woman wants you to be; finding a balance and being there for your partner.